non-directive (client autonomy): let patient guide the direction of the process
emphatically listen (unconditional positive regard): do not fix the patient but listen even if it seams strange, stupid, bad, weak. Allow the person to accept their thoughts to heal. understanding means not judging create a safe environment (also external paraphilia).
less inclined to fix things ,set goals, mold people, manipulate or push them the way I’d like to be. I’m more content to be myself and the another person be himself.
empathy: get inside the skin of the patient. how does it feel actually to be you?
be authentic (congruence): no need to be always in calm, be honest. be yourself and let the other be himself too. allow therapist to express emotions, to have a personality.
live flowing process, not a finished product. allow yourself to be changed.
allow contradictory feelings and be OK with it. facts are friendly
basically positive (about the direction of the soul)